I can’t always explain why certain things happen to people, but I wish I could. Sometimes I wonder if bad things happen to people to test their strength or if it is just bad luck. I guess all people wonder why certain things happen to them, their loved ones, or random strangers. Everyone has their own story. In an earlier post I talked about the homeless man who I watched from my back window one morning. He has his own life story. I questioned if his life was like that because of bad decisions he made or bad luck. My curiosity about this stranger’s life may seem meaningless, but it makes me reflect back on my life. We all have our peaks and valleys in life, that’s how it works. I guess what’s important is what you take from the positive and negative events or moments in your life. I am a firm believer that every moment you live is a life lesson.
Every person goes through bad things in their life. They have the decision to allow that negative moment bring them down or they have the decision to use that experience to allow them to become a stronger person. I believe everyone is capable of forgiving others as well. I’m not saying forgiveness fixes everything, but it helps you heel to a certain degree. It allows you to release negative emotions that can potentially affect you in your every day life. It’s not easy living a life with chips on your shoulders or holding grudges against those who have hurt you. Most of the times those people who you want to hold grudges against are meaningless to your life and can always be replaced with better people. The only exception is family, you can never replace family. It’s always hard when a family member lets you down or disappoints you, but it would be more damaging to yourself by not finding it in your heart to forgive. I believe it’s more damaging to yourself. But who am I to say what’s right and what’s wrong. I don’t live other people’s lives so I can’t understand every life situation. I think if you find the courage to rise above yourself it can be accomplished, it’s just a lot easier said that done.
I don’t really know how I became to believe the things I do, most likely my mom. She’s always taught me to be a strong and independent woman. I think this is every mom’s goal to instill the notion that as a female you are capable of accomplishing anything. Mother’s seem to be right…ALL THE TIME. I have her to thank for becoming the person I am today. She always taught me that having goals and dreams was a great way to structure yourself in the crazy world we inhabit. It’s so true. Having goals and things to look forward to help me strive to become successful. It’s always about doing it one step better than your parents, that’s another thing she taught me. She told me that there was always things I could do better than my parents. I live a great life and have great parents, I sometimes question what I could do to make it better, but I suppose I understand what she means. It’s my parents goal to watch me grow and live a great life, become successful, have a family, and live every moment of my life to the fullest. They taught me well, my mom especially. I don’t think I could ask for a better mom. Our relationship was not always the best, but I am almost positive every girl goes through a similar phase with their mother. I can happily say that she is my best friend and I don’t know what I would do without her. She is my rock and she inspires me to not let negative moments in my life bring me down. She reminds me about all the positive things I have in my life to focus on and not the negative things that can bring me down. She is who I depend on to get me through a bad day and give me advice (that I may not always want to hear), but I still do. Mom’s always know best, it’s crazy.
To read this post you clicked a photo of floating lanterns in the sky. This is the lights festival in Thailand, one of the many places I want to visit before I die. I’ll post about my bucket list one of these days, but it’ll probably be longer than this post. Anyways, the reason I used this picture for the post is significant in my mind. When I look at this picture I find so much beauty. The picture is so simple, just paper lanterns floating in the night sky. To me though the picture is so much more, my mind works in such odd ways at times. Anyways, the significance I find in this picture is what the lanterns represent in my life. Life is not always easy and it only is harder when you hold on to the negative moments. By letting go of those moments it allows you to free your mind, your emotions, and yourself to embrace more positive things and people. When you let go of the paper lantern, the candle is lit and represents your fears, grudges, hate, and any other negative emotions. Eventually that light will go out, just as it will leave your mind. It frees yourself to greater opportunities and allows you to live a more beautiful life. It may not happen over night, but if you continually find the courage you’ll eventually find yourself free. Lights will guide you home, back to the person you have set out to become.